What can a single guy teach us about marriage? What is the secret to happiness? How can we make small changes that will radically improve our relationships?
In this podcast episode, Joe Sanok speaks Roger Nygard about his documentary “The Truth about Marriage”.
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Meet Roger Nygard
Roger Nygard has directed TV series such as “The Office,” and “The Bernie Mac Show” and he has edited Emmy-nominated episodes of “VEEP” and “Curb Your Enthusiasm” and “Who is America?”
As an award-winning documentarian, Nygard has tackled topics like “Trekkies,” “The Nature of Existence,” and now “The Truth About Marriage.”
In This Podcast
- How Roger got into his work
- Using humor to get your point across
- Failed relationships
- Tips for getting to know and develop yourself
- Long-term relationships
- Core things Roger discovered during his research
- Premarital counseling
How Roger got into his work
Roger loves to laugh, laughter keeps him sane. He gravitated towards TV shows and even his documentaries are essentially comedies. Roger looks for the humor in humanity and this comes through in his work.
Using humor to get your point across
These documentaries are first & foremost entertainment but underneath there are really important core values that we all hold because we’re social creatures.
This was the main reason for this project. Roger set out to fix himself, to learn about himself. We’re all doing something wrong. There’s no class in school that teaches us how to have happy and healthy relationships, so how do we learn to? Roger wanted to do better, to break the cycle. He was sabotaging his relationships without realizing why or how he was sabotaging them.
Tips for getting to know and develop yourself
- John & Julie Gottman – 69% of relationship problems are never solved, only recognized/acknowledged.
- Acceptance – The secret to happiness is acceptance.
- Talking about feelings and needs.
- You have two choices – leaving or accepting.
We’re meant to complete each other, not duplicate each other.
- Having children influences our happiness.
- The purpose of marriage at its core is a piece of paper where two people are agreeing to pool their financial and property resources for the benefit of raising children.
- Passion, as our relationships continue, this fades. But it is possible to get it back, increase your physical activity in new and exciting ways.
Core things Roger discovered during his research
These little changes in behavior can change the trajectory of your relationship drastically.
The biggest problem is that we don’t recognize what our partners need, someone needs to tell us. Generally, women need 20-30mins a day when they are genuinely recognized and listened to, and men need freedom and disconnection. Roger suggests ways to try this out for a week and see how it can change our relationships.
If you know the rules going in, you’re going to have a much better chance of making it than if you go in unknowing and there’s a lot of surprises and shock and potential disappointments awaiting you.
Books mentioned in this episode
- Josh Fonger Wants You To Work The System | PoP 452
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Meet Joe Sanok
Joe Sanok helps counselors to create thriving practices that are the envy of other counselors. He has helped counselors to grow their businesses by 50-500% and is proud of all the private practice owners that are growing their income, influence, and impact on the world. Click here to explore consulting with Joe.
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