Do you find the journey of self-accountability difficult to transverse? How can you engage yourself and other people in a fruitful yet difficult discussion without becoming defensive? Are there other ways in which you can have difficult yet necessary discussions with people that remain open and understanding?
In this podcast episode, Joe Sanok speaks about calling in and not calling out with Dr. Sonya Lott.
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Meet Dr. Sonya Lott
Sonya Lott earned her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from Temple University and has been licensed as a psychologist in Pennsylvania since 1991. She is also registered in Florida as an out-of-state telehealth provider.
She is the founder and CEO of CEMPSYCH, LLC (Continuing Education in Multicultural Psychology), which offers continuing education that supports mental health professionals in cultivating a multicultural orientation, and is approved by the American Psychological Association (APA) to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. Dr. Lott also serves on the Advisory Board of White People Confronting Racism, an organization in Philadelphia that works with white people who desire to challenge the racism within and around them. And who are searching for a way to strengthen their work for racial justice.
In addition to this work, she maintains a private practice devoted to helping individuals transform their experience of acute and prolonged grief. She is an associate of the Center for Complicated Grief at Columbia University’s School of Social Work, where she completed advanced training in Complicated Grief Therapy (CGT).
In This Podcast
- The essence behind calling in versus calling out?
- Staying in the messiness
- What does it take to start the process of calling in?
– Looking at yourself first
– Avoid the tendency of taking action first
The essence behind calling in versus calling out
One of the things I’m aware of is that a lot of white people are saying ‘I don’t know what to say, I don’t wanna say the wrong thing’ and I just say ‘you’re gonna mess it up, over and over again!’ And it’s about becoming comfortable with doing the work while messing it up. It’s impossible to not mess it up, and you have to have some love and kindness for yourself.
Calling in means that you engage a person in discussion with empathy first. Calling in is pointing out something that someone did or said that was problematic but encourages a discussion instead of shutting them down for making the mistake of saying the wrong thing. In order to make progress, calling in brings and includes everyone into the discussion instead of dividing the group further into who said what.
To exemplify this distinction, people are waking up to the ongoing crisis of black people’s experience of systematic racism in the USA and many white people are finding themselves dealing with feelings of guilt, sitting in discomfort, and wanting to do something to ‘help’. ‘Calling in’ helps to validate these emotional responses by recognizing their intentions to help how they can.
Staying in the messiness
You’re not the only one messing up, the whole thing is messy, you know. And so it’s important to let people know there’s not a straight path to getting it right, we never always get it right.
In terms of clinicians, not many are explicitly taught how to deal with multicultural issues and so may be unequipped to assist their patients, or even themselves when they are, too, dealing with these emotions. Even trained professionals can struggle with these emotions and knowing how to act in these difficult and necessary discussions, but messing up with compassion and eagerness to learn is better than staying quiet and slowly becoming resentful.
What does it take to start the process of calling in?
Look at yourself first
You need to begin with you because this is the foundation for moving towards resolving any kind of racial injustice. Move towards making sure that you are not causing harm unconsciously in your daily actions, because it is not possible to change something that you are not aware of, therefore the need to begin with yourself.
By starting with ourselves, we can dig into the ways we have all been socialized from birth to believe things that are not necessarily true just because they exist. We need to weed out these old and harmful ideas from our minds – without becoming upset with ourselves – by encouraging self-compassion and therefore compassion for others when we all do the work; calling it in.
Avoid the tendency of taking action first
If we wish to ignore and not deal with the discomfort and guilt of evaluating yourself first, you will not make any true changes or positive influences because those actions are still being driven by guilt and not by sincere empathy and a willingness to learn. This causes more harm in the long run than if we were to push past those uncomfortable and difficult thoughts from the onset.
You can also evaluate marginalized minority feelings, because these cultural identities may have internalized cultural norms that oppose their existence. Beginning with ourselves and committing to work through the messiness and discomfort will mean that when we act, our actions are informed, sincere, and with the intention of getting it right for the sake of others, not for the sake of one’s guilty emotions.
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This is the Practice of the Practice podcast with Joe Sanok, session number 492.
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Well, today we have an awesome follow up, Dr. Sonya Lott. She and I have been talking since June when we did the Black Leaders Matter series. And man, she and I had such a great conversation about calling in, not calling out. So without any further ado, I give you Dr. Sonya Lott.[JOE]:
Today on the Practice of the Practice podcast we have Dr. Sonya Lott. Dr. Sonya Lott earned her PhD in counseling psychology from Temple University and has been licensed as a psychologist in Pennsylvania since 1991. She’s also registered in Florida as an out of state telehealth provider. She’s the founder and CEO of CEMPSYCH, LLC, Continuing Education in Multicultural Psychology, which offers continuing education that supports mental health professionals in cultivating a multicultural orientation, and is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing ed for psychologists. She also serves on the advisory board of Whites Confronting Racism, an organization in Philadelphia that works with white people who desire to challenge the racism within and around them, and who are searching for a way to strengthen their work for racial justice. In addition to this work, she maintains a private practice devoted to helping individuals transform their experience of acute and prolonged grief. She is an associate of the Center for Complicated Grief at Columbia University’s School of Social Work, where she completed advanced training in complicated grief therapy. Sonya, welcome to the Practice of the Practice podcast. [SONYA]:
Thank you, Joe. I’m grateful to be here. [JOE]:
Yeah, I just want to start with, I love how much care you put in before even us starting this conversation. In June, I did the Black Leaders Matter series, and you and I were talking kind of throughout that. And before you go on a podcast, you take the time to talk with the guest, you kind of make sure that you’re on the same page in a number of ways. And I want to hear a little bit more about that before we dig into today’s topic, because the care that you put into speaking – I think, as I’ve got to know you – says a lot about who you are. Tell me more about that thoughtful approach to becoming a podcast guest. [SONYA]:
It’s around integrity. It’s important to be clear about my position, who I am and the place from which I’m speaking. Conversations around culture, particularly around race, can be really, really difficult and the last thing I would want to do is to get on a podcast with somebody cold, if you will, and share a truth from my perspective that triggers the host. And that happens all the time. And in situations like that, it would be a wasted opportunity. So that’s the first thing. Knowing too where a person is in terms of their own racial identity can help me to stay in my truth, but to present information in a way that it’s less likely to be pushed back, or not received. Same thing for the audience. Also, it’s really important for me to offer something in addition to what you’ve already offered your audience around a similar topic. So I listened to the entire Black Leaders Matter series so that I could be informed on what your audience has already learned how I can enhance that, if that makes sense. [JOE]:
Yeah, that that makes a lot of sense. And I appreciate you taking the time to listen through all of those interviews. One thing that we talked about before we got started, that I think is really an interesting kind of framing, is you talked about how I had said to some of these leaders, you can just call me out on things. I want to be an open book. And you challenge the idea of calling out, maybe frame that out for us. And I’d love to hear even just a little bit of the history of how you’ve changed ‘calling out’ to what you say instead. [SONYA]:
‘Calling in’ for me, represents instead of pushing somebody back… ‘calling out’ to me is like saying to somebody, you’re wrong, you did something wrong, it was intentional, and now I’m going to punish you for that, or you should be ashamed, or it’s your fault, which for anybody will push you back. It brings out a defensive posture and you lose any opportunity to really help the person to move forward in a way that’s beneficial to all parties involved. If you think about relationships, and couples, and arguments they get into, we don’t get where we’re trying to go by calling people out. And from my perspective, calling people in is a way of pointing out something that they said or something that they did or something they believe, is problematic. But come on in, let’s work together, let’s talk about that. And if the person is open, and they’re more likely to be with that sort of loving kindness being offered, or compassion for where they are, starting where they are right now, validating that and trying to bring them forward, it’s more likely to be useful in giving the person (A) to hear you and (B) for them to be open to moving with you in whatever it is that you’re trying to teach, or to help them to understand. So it’s just a given that if you really want people to come with you, to open to the idea of changing their way of feeling and thinking and being, I feel like you have to do that. [JOE]:
Yeah. Now, I know you’ve done tons of trainings and you continue to do this work. Do you have any maybe examples of when either you or someone else called someone in and what that looked like? [SONYA]:
Well, anytime you’re working with… like, one of the things that’s happening right now is that a lot of white people are awakening to the ongoing injustices that have been in place for people of color, particularly black people, in the four hundred years since we were brought here. And so they’re awakening and sitting in this discomfort and wanting to do something to “help”. And so I’ve been working with a lot of therapists who have Facebook groups and other types of community formats, where they’re feeling intolerant now of all of the white people who aren’t where they are at this point, and wanting to be quite confrontational with these people now about their prejudices, and ways of thinking that perpetuate injustice. And so I’ve been validating where they are, and recognizing their intention, but then saying, they are where you were before you woke up a short time ago to the reality of being black in America for four hundred years. So can you think of a way, or can you open to more compassion around where they are today, which is where you just left, and here’s some possible ways that you might do that. [JOE]:
That’s great. Now, tell me a little bit more about, like, when you see clinicians, and you’re working with clinicians, one thing we’ve talked about is how every code of ethics has specific requirements. Maybe let’s talk a little bit about that. Because I think a lot of people are unaware of the work that they’re supposed to be doing for their license or for within their field. Let’s just talk through that a little bit. [SONYA]:
Okay. Well, I can start with saying that as mental health professionals, we all have privilege, independent of our cultural identities or how the world sees us in terms of of our various cultural identities. And so we get to opt out of this process once we complete our degrees if we want to. There’s only been a requirement for one three-credit course on “multicultural counseling and development”. In APA approved programs, or any master’s level governing body, there’s only been the requirement since the end of the 1990s to take that one course. And I’ve taught that one course at Temple in their master’s program and invariably what happens is you have that course, it’s from an intellectual perspective, the professor who’s teaching it likely isn’t comfortable with his or her own racial and perhaps other identities. And so you take that course, you get through an intellectual process, you go out into the world and it’s like it never happened. And so people don’t look at the multicultural guidelines that the American Counseling Association has, the American Psychological Association, and all of the others, the National Association of Social Workers, nobody looks at the multicultural guidelines. Even if we look at our ethical guidelines that speak to our mandate to do no harm, and to make sure we’re looking at our own biases and assumptions around cultural identities to make sure that our biases and assumptions don’t interfere with the work we’re doing, nobody really pays attention. They don’t have to. [JOE]:
And so where do people start in regards to really, from just the requirement standpoint, what are some of the big picture things that people need to, for sure, make sure they’re focusing on when they’re saying, okay, wow, Sonya, I didn’t even realize this. Or maybe they did realize it and have maybe not thought of it since grad school, or their ethics class, or whenever. There’s so many resources out there. What would you say to start getting into compliance, to start thinking through these issues as a professional, addressing our own privilege or our own sense of culture, and how that affects our clients? What are some of the kind of big picture directions people should think through? [SONYA]:
Well, gosh, big picture… one, that there are really three components to what we talked about as multicultural competence, which I would like to distinguish from a multicultural orientation. [JOE]:
Let me interrupt there – just tell me, how would you kind of parse out those two? [SONYA]:
Multicultural competence refers to… that’s been the language historically that’s been used around the three different areas in which we have to learn a significant amount of information about. The multicultural orientation – more recently that framework is thought of as, because there’s no way to learn everything we need to learn about ourselves, about other people, and developed a set of specific skills and it’s a lifelong journey. So it’s about a multicultural orientation, a way of being within oneself, that allows you to see the world from a different type of lens. [JOE]:
So to me, it’s almost like the competence would be almost like a speed limit, like, it’s just to be safe on the road, here’s the basics. Whereas an orientation would be, I want to be a safe driver. Overall, I’m continuing to be a safe driver, but it’s not as like there’s a barrier to it, maybe. Maybe that analogy doesn’t work. [SONYA]:
No, let me see if I can explain the distinction between the two better. Competencies imply that you get to a certain point and you know everything you need to know, like when we graduate from whatever graduate program, and that you know everything you need to know to be able to go forth and do the work. And because there’s no end to the work that, particularly because with… when we talk about multicultural competence, we’re talking about first, knowing oneself, being aware of biases and assumptions, and looking at the ways in which we’ve been socialized, and unlearning the things that we need to unlearn, learning new things as it relates to ourselves and others in terms of our cultural identities. That’s the first step. The second is learning about the ‘them’, the folks, the marginalized folks, about women, about black people, about other people of color, about gay and lesbian people, about transgender people, and then sort of developing a set of specific skills that help us to establish therapeutic relationships with marginalized groups that we’re working with, all of that.
So that’s what’s thought about as multicultural competence. But what we’ve learned now is that if you don’t have sort of a multicultural framework, or orientation, an openness to recognizing there’s so much to unlearn and so much to learn, that you can’t do all of it. It’s an ongoing process. And it’s sort of a way of being, of being open to learning new things, and knowing that you don’t have all the answers.[JOE]:
Gotcha. Yeah, that makes sense. [SONYA]:
So I’m assuming we’re taking this part out? [JOE]:
No, I mean, well, we can. [SONYA]:
Okay. I thought we were… [JOE]:
Usually I… no, I think it’s good to kind of demonstrate that ongoing learning and kind of sorting through things because, to me, having a variety of lenses of how we talk through it, I think that for me, leaving the messiness in is okay. It’s me that looks silly, not you. [SONYA]:
[Unclear] that before, Joe. [JOE]:
Yeah, I mean, I think part of what I like about this podcast is that, you know, to ask questions for myself, but also to ask questions on behalf of the audience. To know that there’s people at different points. And so to try to conceptualize things, and sometimes I miss the mark. And I think that’s important, to leave that missing of the mark in, because, you know, when you hear perfectly edited podcasts, you don’t always hear that behind the scenes. And so to me, I think, leaving all that in, I’m okay with that if you are. [SONYA]:
Okay, yeah, I’m fine with that, too. And you know what, it does reflect the messiness of this work. This process is really, really messy. And so one of the things that I’m aware of is that a lot of white people are feeling or saying, you know, I don’t know what to say, I don’t want to say the wrong thing. And I just say, you’re gonna mess it up over and over again. And it’s about becoming comfortable with doing the work while messing it up. It’s impossible to not mess it up. And you have to have some loving kindness for yourself, some sense of you’re not the only one who’s messing it up. This whole thing is messy. And so it’s important to let people know that there’s not a straight path to getting it right. And we will never always get it right because ‘right’ varies so much, within one person, over time, between people and trying to make sense of all of this. And it goes back to to the importance of calling people in rather than calling them out – that helps people to stay in the messiness of trying to figure it out.
And one of the things that I often say… I’m currently doing some work as a facilitator with a really large healthcare system in the south, and we’ve been having these conversations. And so one of the things I also do is remind white people that people of color engage in this discernment every day, in terms of when we decide to speak up, even if it’s not about anything racial or cultural at all, but that we know that we’re being judged by the color of our skin all the time. And so we worry about trying to get it right all the time, too. And because of the world we live in, we don’t often have that choice. So helping people who are white people in this case, who are afraid of saying the wrong thing, it’s helpful to let them from the other side see that it’s the same process going on, but in a different way. It helps people to develop compassion for themselves and others, if that makes sense.[JOE]:
Yeah, yeah. I’m wondering if we kind of look forward – say we go five years into the future – and we’re moving forward as a field, and counseling, psychology, this hasn’t just been a flash in the pan in 2020, but it’s been something that the people that are saying, we want to dedicate ourselves to this work, we want to change how we’re approaching this issue, we want there to be more justice in the world. For you, what would it take over, say, the next five years, as a field of mental health professionals, for us to get to a better point in five years. What kind of advocacy, what kind of learning, what kind of calling in would have to happen, from your point of view? [SONYA]:
The first thing is looking at oneself, that’s a foundation of any type of moving toward “racial justice”, or moving toward making sure that we’re not doing harm. We can’t shift what we’re not even aware is happening within us. And so many people are awakening to what’s been happening around us for so long. But that energy needs to shift away from wanting to now do something, to “help”, often as a way to quell the anxiety and guilt that you’re feeling yourself. And this is true for anybody, with any privilege, in a cultural identity, not just race. But again, that’s the hot-button topic, if you will.
And so it’s looking at oneself first, and digging into the ways that we’ve all been socialized to think about ourselves in all of the identities that we have: skin color, our gender identity, gender roles in the way that… or gender that most people think about it, sexual orientation, religion, all of those identities. And to learn how we’ve been socialized, to wake up to that, so that we can recognize the lies really that we been told by the people who love us most, who were also told the same things. And so we have to go into that awareness, deepen that awareness around how we’ve been socialized to think about ourselves and other people. That’s the first step.
And so in that deepening awareness, there’s a lot of shame and guilt and anger and rage that comes with that. And so people really like to skip that part and just go to the “helping”, but if we don’t do that work, and learn who we are, and unlearn so much of what we’ve been taught through the socialization process, we can’t show up as change agents, we can’t show up to do good work, which is our intention. We end up doing more harm in trying to help without doing our own work first. So we can’t, for example, be anti racist or we can’t be a trans advocate if we don’t first do our work and know how we’re harming. Because as therapists or mental health professionals, that’s our first responsibility, to make sure, first, that we’re not doing harm. And so in our intention to help, and again too often try to manage all those messy feelings that come from our awakening, and from who we’ve been, we try to help to make ourselves feel better.[JOE]:
Yeah, yeah. I think that tendency to jump towards action instead of doing your own work, you know, that idea that, well, of course, your actions reflect what’s going on inside… people will often have that assumption, that if I’m, say, helping the homeless or helping whatever kind of social issue you want, that that doesn’t necessarily reflect your heart. It could be that you just feel really guilty that you have a nice house and that’s why you want to help the homeless. [SONYA]:
That’s right. [JOE]:
And in the same way, doing your own work, of privilege, of thinking through how you were raised. And it’s interesting, even over the last probably ten or twenty years – I’d say it’s been probably twenty years or so – of going through different programs to help me just unpack how I was raised. I didn’t think I was raised with much privilege, but I went to a private Catholic school, I had two highly educated parents that advocated for me. And there’s all sorts of things that I can look at and say, whoa, I was set up for a lot of success that was completely out of my control. But even into grad school until I really had to confront a lot of that in some of my classes, I really thought it was my own work that got me here, that kind of typical narrative. And so, to unpack that over time, and to sit with that, and just have care with myself, but then also to say, I have a duty to continue this work, that’s tough for a lot of people to confront, a lot of those emotions. [SONYA]:
And see, that’s the full five years right there, doing that work. [JOE]:
And then I just want to be clear that we have to also unpack – those of us who have marginalized identities – the ones that are most salient for us. Not racism, the most salient cultural identity for everybody. For some it might be gender identity. For some it might be religion. For others, it’s gender and religion, or race and sexual orientation, you know. It varies person to person and changes over time. But people who are part of a marginalized group have to do the same work. What comes up though, is a little bit different. Like right now, a lot of black people and other people of color are waking up to how they’ve been socialized in the same way as white people, and have really negative ideas and stereotypes about themselves and people who look like them. You know, as well as other people who are “minority groups”. So when we wake up to that there’s a great sense of, feeling of, rage and anger, and shame maybe for having “bought into” the socialization that we had no choice in.
So all of us have to do this work; all of us have privilege somewhere. Most of us have privilege somewhere, even if it’s just a privilege because we are mental health professionals. So we all need to look at the privilege and most of us have some marginalization somewhere. It might be sexual orientation, it might be religion – if you’re Jewish or Muslim, for example – in addition to privilege. So we have a lot to figure out, each of us, independent of if we are more connected to our privileged status or are more marginalized ones. And we tend to be more centered in where we have the experience of marginalization than where we have privilege.[JOE]:
Yeah. Now for your own personal development, like, what are directions that you explore that you find value in for yourself? [SONYA]:
I’m not sure what you mean. [JOE]:
Well, like, in doing your own… you’re kind of encouraging all of us to do our own work. Are there other resources that you personally have found valuable, that helped you just in your own work, in your own development, in your own just identity formation, that for you, you said, this was really something that helped me just grow in who I am as a person? [SONYA]:
Well, one, it has to do with my spiritual framing. And I don’t claim to be anything in particular. I grew up in a Lutheran Church, and was baptized in a Lutheran Church, and went to a Lutheran college and all of that. But actually, as soon as I got to college and took my first required theology course, and starting to ask questions without answers, I sort of moved away from religion as an organized set of beliefs. So I’m more spiritual. And so from that framework, I’ve learned the healing power of loving kindness, you know, self-compassion and compassion for others, and can sit deeper in empathy. I have more normative truth about who I am, as a unique emanation of the same divine source, whatever we want to call that. Some call that a god, some call it The Universe, or whatever. But I know the truth about myself from my spiritual work, that no matter how I’m seen, or even how I might see myself on, there’s a Truth – with a capital T – about my divinity, if you will, about my infinite potential that we all have. So that framing, and that ability to offer myself loving kindness, and to offer that to other people, and to use spiritual practices to get re-centered when I get off track, when I get like full of emotion, or I’m dealing with marginalization that happens every day, it helps me to come back to center. And it helps me to know the truth about other people, that despite how we may behave based on the ways that we’ve been socialized, despite how we might be resistant to hearing something other than what we currently believe, that for the most part we all are coming from a good place, and it’s really just a matter of the felt experience that we have to have, the moving away from the intellectual, all of the readings, what books should I read, but being in the felt experience and offering yourself compassion, and also finding safe, sacred spaces with people who are beyond where you are right now and whatever identity that you are coming into greater awareness around, and needing to do work, and to get emotional freedom from, even if it’s one that you have privilege. And that you find safe, sacred spaces with people who are further along on the journey, who can bring you along with them, if that makes sense. [JOE]:
Yeah, and I just want to say that also your interview with Rebecca Wong about sacred spaces is a great companion episode to this. So if you’re hearing this and you’re saying, I want to hear more of Dr. Sonya Lott, I want to understand more of what she talks about, she and Rebecca have a good hour conversation going into sacred spaces, and a number of different ideas around how to have these conversations. It just was such a good episode. The last question that I ask, Sonya, is if every private practitioner in the world were listening right now, what would you want them to know? [SONYA]:
That we’re all in this together. That this is really messy work, but it’s required work, not just for us to meet our ethical guidelines, but in doing our own work and looking at our own biases and assumptions about ourselves and others, and all of the cultural identities that we have, we end up first transforming ourselves. And I often talk about that as the joke in all of this, or the trick. In all of this really hard, messy work that we should be doing is that we get to transform ourselves. We get to find emotional freedom, whether we’re dealing more with marginalized identities or privileged ones. That’s really the inside story, that this work is really about us. It just looks like it’s for our jobs or for the benefit of other people. But it’s really for us to transform first. [JOE]:
Such a great point. Dr. Sonya Lott, you’ve got some courses coming out soon. We’d love to hear a little bit more about that and how people can connect with you if they want to work with you more. [SONYA]:
Okay, well, you can find the courses and reach out to me on my CEMPSYCH website, which is www.cempsych.com. And the courses are related. I also have a podcast, it’s called Reflections on Multicultural Competence, and so I’m relaunching the podcast and I have a series The power of this now moment for white therapists; the power of this now moment for therapists of color, and I have some live webinars which will also become home study – after they air live – around understanding the ethical guidelines that we have and all of… there’s so many multicultural guidelines. And also ways to find your path, and to find your support, and to balance all of the things that come up when we’re doing this work. And so these courses, they are available now on the website, and more courses are being added on a regular basis, all related to multicultural competence or developing a multicultural orientation. [JOE]:
Awesome. Well head on over to cempsych.com if you want access to any of that. Also, we’ll have links to all of that in the show notes. Dr. Sonya Lott, thank you so much for being on the Practice of the Practice podcast. [SONYA]:
Thank you so much. It’s my joy to be here. [JOE]:
Well, I hope your September is coming to a decent close and that you are just having such a great time in your practice. There are so many things going on with Practice of the Practice and make sure you head on over to our website. We have a whole events section now because we’re offering tons of free webinars every month. We have lots of different things to help speed up your progress. Also, thank you Brighter Vision for being a sponsor. Brighter Vision is the website solution out there. They’re amazing. Make sure you check them out at brightervision.com/joe, and thank you so much for letting me into your ears and your brain. The next episode, we’re gonna be talking about moving forward from here – lessons to learn from this moment, and it’s gonna be really an awesome interview. So make sure you tune into that and I’ll talk to you soon.
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