Do you practice self-compassion alongside being confident? Which habits can hinder self-compassion? What is The Confidence Project Journal and how can it help you uncover personal strength and stop self-doubt?
In the second episode of the Diverse Clinicians Series, Joe Sanok speaks with Kaity Rodriguez about her book The Confidence Project Journal and why self-compassion and journaling are so important.
In this Podcast:
- Confidence versus self-compassion
- Create your identity
- 3 things that hinder self-compassion
- The power of journaling
Confidence versus self-compassion
There is a difference between being confident and having self-compassion.
You can be very confident but have very low self-compassion. If your self-compassion is low, then you’re going to be beating yourself up for every flaw and imperfection that you have. (Kaity Rodriguez)
Even if you are one of the greatest at a sport or activity, if you do not practice self-compassion towards yourself, then that confidence can turn nasty very quickly as you judge yourself for not achieving a high standard.
For confidence to remain healthy, it must be paired with self-care and self-compassion.
Create your identity
I was careful not to create an identity around that one achievement because that achievement or accomplishment was temporary, or short-term. (Kaity Rodriguez)
As a high-achiever, be sure to separate your identity from your accomplishments. If you define yourself only by your successes and failures – and there will always be ups and downs – you will be unnecessarily harsh on yourself.
Know that who you are, and your intrinsic value, is not only dependent on your successes but who you are as a person, apart from the external glitter.
What I shifted my focus to, were the other things in my life that will be important to me, and that allow me to serve my community, other people, and to live a happy and adventurous life. (Kaity Rodriguez)
3 things that hinder self-compassion
1. Not knowing yourself
If you do not have a connection with your inner being or you do not know who you are, that can inhibit how confident you feel in your actions and how you practice self-care.
2. Not taking the time to get to know yourself
Make the time once a day or a few times a week to really connect with you. Listen to your thoughts and emotions, and build a healthy relationship with them.
3. Not being proactive
Don’t let it take a major life event that shakes you to take a step towards caring for your own needs. Try to practice self-care, compassion, and fulfillment before you are forced to.
The power of journaling
If there [are] two skills that I could have you walk away with when it comes to therapy, it would be mindfulness and self-compassion. (Kaity Rodriguez)
Journaling is a tool that helps you to practice mindfulness tangibly.
You can use the act of writing down what you think and feel as a way to practice becoming self-aware.
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