How has your personal experience inspired your counseling journey? Do societal structures fail couples? What recommendation can you get from a couples therapist on the best way to create a strong relationship?
In the first episode of the Diverse Clinicians Series, Joe Sanok speaks about the journey to becoming a couples therapist with Dr. Tiphanie Gibbs.
- Dr. Gibbs’ experience of working with couples
- How society fails couples
- “The best way to be a strong couple is to be a strong person”
- Consider an E-book for your business
Dr. Gibbs’ experience of working with couples
The most common foundations and similarities between couples and their issues that Dr. Gibbs discovered were needing to:
- Learn how to communicate
- Learn how to resolve conflict with each other
- Learn how to share vulnerabilities and feelings with your partner
Being able to learn all of those little aspects that we kind of forget about, or we don’t realize, or nobody teaches us [because] when we’re dating it’s all unicorns and rainbows. (Dr. Gibbs)
How society fails couples
A lot of what a person learns about communication comes from the examples that their parents set for them, as well as how they communicate with siblings, friends, or people within the community.
I think those are basic things that you have to learn within the home. I think it all starts within the home. (Dr. Gibbs)
Conflict resolution in schools and most family homes are not equipped to teach people effective methods of communication, because most conflict resolution is based around isolation and punishment, instead of open communication and compassion.
“The best way to be a strong couple is to be a strong person”
It takes personal courage and vulnerability to make a great relationship work.
You need to be willing to sit with yourself and develop your interpersonal skills if you wish to make your relationship flourish, with your partner, your kids, and your loved ones.
It’s so interesting that you start with a couple and the best way to be a strong couple is to be a strong person and is to be a strong adult to have learned these life skills. (Joe Sanok)
To be honest with yourself takes strength, and it is vital to do should you wish to create loving and meaningful relationships in your life.
Consider an E-book for your business
I think an e-book is a simple way to reach people. It is really quick because it’s not a full 200-page book, and it’s real easy to do. (Dr. Gibbs)
Writing and publishing an e-book is a great way to get your name out there to your audience and fellow clinicians.
You can write about your specialty, or provide activities and homework for your clients, and refer to it in session if you find that your clients have similar questions.
It can also connect you to other clinicians because it places you within the academic mental health community.
Books mentioned in this episode:
Dr Gibbs e-book: “Practical Tips and Strategies for Keeping Your Marriage Together”
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- Use promo code ‘JOE’ to get three free months to try out TherapyNotes
- Visit Dr. Gibb’s website and business Facebook page. Connect with her on Instagram, LinkedIn, Twitter, and Facebook.
- Purchase Dr. Gibbs’ eBook “Practical Tips and Strategies for Keeping Your Marriage Together”
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