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What does it take for a family to recover from the death of their child? Why is it important to allow yourself to feel the emotions without suppressing them? Can a family turn grief into a celebration?
In the thirteenth episode of the How I Got Through It series, Joe Sanok speaks with Donna Kennedy about how she got through the death of her son.
In this Podcast:
- Donna’s son
- Allow yourself to feel
- Getting through the grief
- Donna’s advice to her past self
Donna’s son
Six years ago, Donna and her family went on vacation.
Her son went on a short hiking trip with cousins and friends there and had a tragic fall, not making it back home.
The next few weeks and months that passed after his death went by in a haze. Donna and her partner knew that they wanted to celebrate his life, and organized an ultimate frisbee event with all those who knew and loved him.
We really wanted to celebrate his life so we went into the planning, and that God, with a lot of awesome friends and support [we were] able to put together a beautiful celebration of life. (Donna Kennedy)
Donna’s celebration with friends and loved ones set the tone of gratitude and appreciation for her son in honor of his memory.
Allow yourself to feel
There will be times when the sadness suddenly rises and feels overwhelming. It may last for days or a moment, but when it comes, allow yourself to feel it.
Make space for yourself to feel it until it passes.
Whatever the feeling is, I don’t resist it, because I think the resistance – and the acceptance part of this is what is – when I resist, it will come out some other way. (Donna Kennedy)
When you resist strong emotions, they will find another way out. This could look like:
- Being short-tempered or snappy
- Having little patience
- Becoming frustrated by the small things
Do not be afraid to feel them because it is through feeling them that they are then released.
I always tell people … the waves [of emotion] don’t last forever. They’re going to come in but then they’re going to go back out. (Donna Kennedy)
Getting through the grief
- Saying his name
For Donna and her family, hearing her son’s name never brought more pain than his death. Instead, it warmed her heart to hear him being spoken about and remembered.
- Faith
Donna spent time with God in worship and praise.
- Constant learning
She spent a lot of time learning from people who have gone through similar situations, desiring to learn how to move through the grief in the best way possible.
I make sure that I’m always nourishing my mind with something that is going to help me realize something that I didn’t realize before. (Donna Kennedy)
Donna’s advice to her past self
Take more intentional time for yourself during your work day to check in with yourself. Refill and renew your energy by meditating in the middle of the day, and don’t negotiate with yourself on that.
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