How I got through the unexpected, unexplained full-term stillbirth of my first daughter with Christine McAlister | POP 751

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How does a mother cope with loss and an identity shift? What happens to a relationship when a couple goes through multiple miscarriages? Are there expectations and ideologies that hold you back from living a full life?

In the sixteenth episode of the How I Got Through It series, Joe Sanok speaks about getting through the unexpected, unexplained full-term stillbirth of Christine McAlister’s first daughter.

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Meet Christine McAlister

A photo of Christine McAlister is captured. She is passionate about helping impact-driven entrepreneurs attract their next clients by being value-driven podcast guests. Christine is featured on the Practice of the Practice, a therapist podcast.

Christine McAlister is passionate about helping impact-driven entrepreneurs attract their next clients by being value-driven podcast guests.

She’s generated well over 6-figures as a podcast guest, and has been recognized as the best in the world at podcast guesting by 7-figure founders like John Lee Dumas, Dana Wilde, and Andrew Kroeze.

A media expert for 2 decades, she’s helped broadcast the Olympic Games, produced an award-winning documentary for PBS, and has been featured in Inc., Business Insider, Bustle, The Huffington Post and on over 100 podcasts, in addition to hosting her top-rated show, No One’s Ever Asked Me That.

Visit Life With Passion and connect with Christine Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and LinkedIn.

In this Podcast:

  • Christine’s pregnancy history
  • Dismantling expectations
  • Coping with miscarriages in marriage
  • Helpful mindsets and habits
  • Christine’s advice to her younger self

Christine’s pregnancy history

Christine is the oldest of four kids and had experience with babysitting and looking after children, although as she got older, she began to doubt whether she was suited to being a mother and whether she could even get pregnant.

Her first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. She started fertility treatment, and unfortunately had two more miscarriages.

Then, she had a full-term pregnancy.

I was very sick and [became] depressed from the hormones. I had a hard time physically and emotionally with the effects of the pregnancy on my body, but the baby was perfect. (Christine McAlister)

Everything was progressing as it should have up until 37 weeks. They had the nursery ready, family coming through, and went to a routine doctor’s appointment where they discovered that the baby didn’t have a heartbeat.

I was sent directly from the doctor’s office … to the hospital to be admitted, be induced, to deliver this baby that had already left this world. (Christine McAlister)

Dismantling expectations

Christine struggled with feelings of guilt from struggling to have a baby.

It was a big, fat “should” for me. It was something that my husband really wanted … a lot of guilt [from feeling that] this is what it means to be a good woman because I grew up in a very conservative Christian [household]. (Christine McAlister)

From the life that she was in her family as a child to wrestling with ideology from within her community, she felt that she was somehow failing as a woman.

Part of her healing from these experiences also meant addressing these false expectations and letting them go.

Coping with miscarriages in marriage

Both Christine and her husband had to get through some conflict because he was desperate for a baby while Christine needed time to heal her body.

She had to lay down some boundaries and they discussed their expectations.

Helpful mindsets and habits

Before these years, Christine had been conservative and Christian.

Dealing with this experience “cracked open” her introduction to spirituality and other ways of looking at life.

She joined groups and went to retreats with other people who had experienced similar situations, and felt seen and understood.

Christine’s advice to her younger self

Stop taking everything so seriously. Play, be curious, and explore.

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Meet Joe Sanok

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Joe Sanok helps counselors to create thriving practices that are the envy of other counselors. He has helped counselors to grow their businesses by 50-500% and is proud of all the private practice owners that are growing their income, influence, and impact on the world. Click here to explore consulting with Joe.

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